I was the guy in college that nobody really knew. Reserved to myself, I spent my free time either with the girlfriend or on the internet playing games. I dedicated myself to these two. It was my form of escapism from the real world. During house parties at the fraternity house I lived in, I'd either hide behind a locked door or flee to somewhere more peaceful. I'd even take the T to an empty classroom and spend the night there sometimes. The last few days before graduation, I didn't get a single call from anyone to come out and celebrate. I left my phone on High just in case. Coming out of school, I received a solid job offer and even had myself a girlfriend.
Was I happy? Sure. But something was missing.
At any given moment, there is someone out there in hopeless heartbreak of not knowing how to pursue their deepest desires. Complacency is often times the easiest choice. A guy may very well be deserving, respectful, honest, sophisticated, handsome, and even slightly outgoing. But his dreams of a potentially happily ever after path may not cross for the sole reason that he is unsure of himself on how to proceed. In the presence of truly elite men, a powerful aura of self-confidence and willpower radiates around them. Women deserve to have a selection of these type of suitors; those of true gentleman quality.
Social conditioning of unreasonable nuances has led us to a blinded fate of uncertainty. False implications, hinting us on the "impossibility" of achieving successes have demoralized our already weakened ambitions. Especially with attaining fortunes and higher quality women. With the exploration of social dynamics, it is now possible to uncover previously unforeseen opportunities in love and life. Mountains will crumble, oceans will part, and bridges will rise to make way for whichever destination of your slightest desire. You are capable of having this level of control over your life and interactions. It's about time you embraced it.
The ideas I post here serve as a collection of revelations as I progress in better understanding social dynamics. Advice pertaining to romantic pursuits, social endeavors, and life in general will be prevalent in my writings. But much like any advice, it is your duty to question them. I dedicate this site to anyone who has ever felt insatiable with their life and in search for answers. I hope to be able to provide to you some inspiration. Or at the very least, a fresh perspective into what you may be capable of achieving. This hour, this day, your life, and the world are all up for grabs. It's your decision whether or not you want it.
Just remember, it's not easy being Superman. Best of luck!
It's a particularly warm November in Venice Italy. The sun has all but hid itself just below the clouds on the horizon. An aura of creamy orange and soft purple tones scatter across the skies. Street lamps flicker on as they indecisively enter their evening shift. The breeze carries autumn leaves down an alleyway past a small hole-in-the-wall of a restaurant. The waiter closes its doors to prepare for its early Sunday closing. As the welcoming bell calms to a silent state, our focus turns to a sophisticated young couple seated near the window.
The fireplace continues to crackle as the reflections of what are illuminated dances across the room. A sudden sparkle. With a charming smile, the man presents a masterfully crafted ring to his lady. Shimmering and shining in front of her, an immeasurable number of emotions rushes through as she accepts the unexpected proposal. Her tongue slowly slides across her lips, as she bites down in anticipation. Hands in hand, eyes gently closed, their lips join for a moment which they will never forget.
Now, who will be that significant other across the table from you? It can just about be anyone. You can walk down the street, catch the attention of some random girl, court her well, create such a world where similar romantic memories would exist, and live together until death does apart. It's not about the memories you create that determine the quality of the relationship. Instead, it's about how you truly complement one another. Relationships can work between any two individuals. Think about all the different cultures that still believe in planned marriages. Just be grateful that you have a choice; and it's all yours.
Coming out of another long-term relationship, it feels somewhat invigorating. I had felt as if I had reached a plateau. A point where I began to question myself: "so, what's next?" It was like the end of a game in Counter-Strike, with the high score up and me waiting for the next map to load. Server lag? No. The relationship hit a stagnant state, and I was no longer willing to work to keep it going. It got tiring. To be honest, I could have kept it going for however long I pleased. Marriage, kids, house, family car, parent-teacher meetings, the whole deal. It's hard to make such long-term decisions in a short amount of time.
When in love, I think it's important to make sure both of you are growing with the love. It wasn't fair for me to keep the relationship going. It may have taken me way too long to figure this shit out, but I'm glad I had the opportunity to spend my time how I did. While pleasurable, it was also a valuable growing experience. There is no such thing as a "perfect" relationship. And there will always be someone "better." Time constrains us of how long we have before we can find our love; forcing us to decide when the time is right for us to settle down. For now, I know I have some more time. No need for hasty decisions.
Self-promised six months of singledom, here I come! :)
I spent a lot of my free time over the past few days editing, designing, coding, tweaking, and planning for the release of the newly branded website: DateWill.com! Originally, I only had the domain name pointed to my personal website. But with the new year, I thought that it would be a great opportunity to revamp this site to stay in accord with a majority of the topics discussed here. All consolidated entries from the past have now been split up into individual posts. A majority of these posts have been edited with additional elaborations, while others were removed entirely. Comments also had to be reset. It might not be a bad idea to sift through the older entries for the changes. Additionally, topic categories have been added so I can tag entries with whatever is appropriate for the item.
There are plenty of exciting updates and changes coming your way, so stay tuned!
This is an hour long Podcast recorded back in mid-October of 2007. While many of the methodologies still hold true, please keep in mind that a lot of newer strategies and mindsets have been incorporated into my teachings since this recording.
