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Dec 15 2008
Disarm the Traps
Written by Will   
Monday, 15 December 2008

There she stands, in the midst of the ambient lounge lighting and shuffling crowd of average girls all over. Dressed to kill and the swagger of a world-renowned celebrity. Your esteem lingers with self-doubt and contemplation of your approach. Without much further thought, you forcefully walk over with your newly adopted 1-second-rule. Is she alone? No. You continue on by introducing yourself to her. With a warm smile and graceful eye contact, she listens. But before you even get to the end of your first line, her friends have pulled her away - to the bar, the dance floor, another table, the restroom. You've been officially: cock-blocked!

It's too often I see this happen. The carrot on a stick. The caged ultraviolet light. The aroma of artisan cheese on a harmless piece of wood. In this case, the opportunity to meet attractive women. Trust me, they do not come alone. And if they did, something is terribly wrong. You are not playing against her. You are playing against everyone else in her world. The boyfriend. Her girlfriends. Win the hearts of everyone around her, and hers will come naturally. Start by introducing yourself to her group. Move slowly. And take your time to understand the logistics. How does everyone know each other? What is everyone's relationship situation? It's not a survey. Socialize. Be friendly. Now that you know she has a boyfriend, her friends will feel more comfortable with leaving you two alone. Time to put on your A game!

 
Dec 15 2008
Discussions with Juggler
Written by Will   
Monday, 15 December 2008

Earlier this month, Wayne Elise (Juggler) from Charisma Arts had visited the Jury's Boston Hotel for a brief talk with a small group of gentlemen. An ex-client, ex-coworker, and a friend of mine had also attended this event with me. Much has changed since I had received my training from Dimitri and Rob last year. In fact, both of them have gone freelance and are no longer with Charisma Arts. The stress on connecting conversation topics by emotions has been completely eliminated. While I don't particularly agree or disagree with the newer teachings, do take it with a grain of salt. Here are some of my notes:

Introductions
Altruism is unrealistic. People will not believe a selfless intent for talking to them. What's your angle? Why are you talking to them? They will remain cautious and curious until knowing so. Open with a preamble, strictly in statement form until they are ready and willing to contribute. Allow them to respond only when it appears they really want to. Wayne also mentioned a very familiar "Balloon Theory:" the importance of opening (grabbing) the entire group (balloons) to slowly release and focus on your single target.

Continuing Conversations
Wayne's "Nostradamus Method" can be described by a volley of various potential conversation topics used in statement format to determine what will invoke their interest. Get used to talking with topic-diverse statements. If they ask questions with minimal desire for a response, allow them to answer it for you. Lead their imagination. Conjure up images and scenarios. Bounce between conversation topics as often as you can. This seems to be in the complete opposition to Wayne's earlier theories of connecting on emotions to keep the conversation more personal.

Qualifications
As described by the Ying and Yang, everything has a potential for good and bad. Use of qualifications is a trick to convince yourself and her that she will live up to your standards. A man will not know within the first 5 minutes or even 5 hours if he can see himself in a relationship with a woman. I think that qualifying is an excellent way to show that you have standards to whom you associate yourself with. But I do agree that certain girls may qualify themselves on a false term just to keep the conversation going.
 
Dec 15 2008
The Pygmalion Effect
Written by Will   
Monday, 15 December 2008

Tim had always been advised by his parents to come directly home to finish his studies after school; with absolutely no detours. Feeling adventurous one day, Tim found himself in an alleyway magic shop where the store clerk had introduced to him a love potion brought from the other side of the world. "Once you consume this potion, the first girl you see will be fascinated by your charm and will deeply fall in love you with you" described the estranged clerk. Thinking of Amy, a girl he's had his eye on for the past two years, Tim worked for four consecutive weeks at the local lumber mill to save enough money for this miracle potion. Once he had finally got enough money together to make the puchase, he stopped by the same magic shop to make the purchase. Carbonated like soda pop, he swallowed it down with sheer confidence right in front of Amy. Smiling brilliantly, Tim asked Amy out to the summer carnival with 100% confidence, 100% commitment. She accepted.

With the growing number of pickup enthusiasts around the world, the market has become saturated with an ever increasing number of techniques and styles for courting women. Want to know a secret? All "techniques" for courtship work. Any change from the norm will provide some sort of results. Even from the sheer fact that you are confident with your actions. From the most undeserving desperate attempts, to a perfectly executed plan of seduction by Mystery himself. You don't really have to know much to just get yourself a girlfriend. Even with a 0.01% success rate, "love" will eventually find "love." I've seen many ridiculously sloppy closures. Sometimes, I even wonder if the girl was doing more of the pickup than the guy. Men who have the experience and knowledge in this field gain one advantage: the choice of higher quality women in their life.

 
Oct 29 2008
Gaming, and the Pursuit of Happiness
Written by Will   
Wednesday, 29 October 2008

Wrote this back in December of 2006:

gaming, and the pursuit of happiness.

"Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness." - Chuang Tzu 350 B.C.

its remarkable how games have been evolving.. its not as simple as it used to be. no longer are you working towards an end or trying to achieve a simple high score. there is no end, no "game over" to remind you to return to reality. as the number of people who participate increase, naturally - so does competition. and with competition, you have a diverse number of players. demographics that extend from teenagers to the average nine to five worker; categorized into casual and hardcore player subsets. and by hardcore, i'm mostly referring to those who sacrifice aspects of their real life to better themselves ingame. to become the truly "elite." its no longer about the game itself, but how much time you're willing to give up to play it. a noob is just a pro, with a little less practice.

as a source of entertainment and relaxation from everyday life, games have become the ultimate vehicle for escapism. but, the severity of this is much dependant on the individual player. in a given lifetime, we are provided the opportunities and the ability to excel in any direction of our choice. and games have become an alluring alternative to a fairly large population from that. as it did for me. give a kid in rural africa a handheld console, equipped with a competitive role playing game - and i wonder how viable of an escape from reality that would be. but, for those who have become complacent with their lives - making just enough to live comfortably - spending the remainder of their life inside a game may seem satisfactory. an oblivious and much ungrateful take on the opportunities that are bound to us.

many games emulate the development of virtual skillsets via a character. whether its: tony hawk unlocking hidden skateboard parks, mario learning how to fly, a sim becoming more charismatic, a world of warcraft warrior obtaining new combat skills through quests, or an eve-online character training to fly battlecruisers - it's all the same. the emulation of real-life hardships to learn, replaced by simple mouse clicks or keystrokes coupled with time. lots of it. which are then presented to us in a fantasy world of low-gravity skateboarding, talking mushrooms, a virtual neighborhood, heroic ventures, and deepspace exploration. how truly delusional. yet, curiously entertaining.

but, seriously.. what other entertainment alternatives are there?: spending money to play obsolete games at the arcade? watching television sitcoms? going to the movies? going out to purchase alcohol at insane markups? spending time with the family? playing around with your pet cat, fuzzball? our standards of what makes us happy have undoubtedly skyrocketed with the advancement in technology. the ease of loading up a game has made some of these options less attractive.

at first, i became very cautious about games that required time commitment. i was careful when selecting a game to ensure there were no obligations for extended gameplay. everything i thought i had learned from quitting the world of warcraft. i was soon after, introduced to eve-online.. drawn by the idea of "playing whenever you want," i decided to create a character and play casually. shortly enough, i came to the realization that any game that requires character development is a waste of time. i would never catch up to those who have played for years.

when the game eventually becomes obsolete (which all do), what sense of accomplishment is there? does it really matter if i collected all one hundred and twenty stars in mario 64? if i manually leveled my pokemon roster to level 99 without the rare candy hack? if i had one of the best pvp assassins of diablo ii on the east coast? if my world of warcraft character had the best equipment imagineable? if im piloting the most undefeatable spacecraft in all of eve-online? not really.

what is it that truly drives us gamers? its competition. and as difficult as it may seem to begin working on our real life attributes and skillsets, what is achievement without hardship? its not as easy as the matrix. you can't sit in a chair and learn kung fu, or how to operate a helicopter. all the hours we had spent kicking ass in the virtual world, we could've become better individuals. keep yourself motivated, and eventually you'll build momentum. motivation is the key to unlocking your success. or if the idea of that seems too overachieving, you can always falter back to the fantasy world where you can pretend to be "elite."

so, how hard will it be to break the habit?

i really don't know.

good luck.

... since then, I've switched over to playing life.

 
Sep 29 2008
Getting Dumped
Written by Will   
Monday, 29 September 2008

Krystal, the girl of your dreams. You met her when you were only 17 and a freshman in college. Not only did you share each other's virginity, but you had even planned a family together. Two kids, a dog, and maybe even a cat in Southern Califor-ni-yay. Medium sized family house, the yard would be yours while she would take care of the garden. Your lives were so well connected until she decided to go abroad for her last semester. All of a sudden she changed. The last incoming call from her was over a week ago. And the last time you called her foreign cell phone, some dude picked up laughing hysterically calling you a "chode." With not much going on in your life, you cry yourself to sleep every night as you wait for her calls. Winter break, she's coming home! You arrive at the airport with a bouquet of flowers. But when she arrives, she doesn't even seem that happy to see you. What the hell happened?

Relationships end for one reason or another. And if you didn't see it coming, you're already at fault. From loss of romance, excitement, sense of security, incompatible goals, differing lifestyles.. the list goes on. There's no need for you to dwell too deep onto why it had occurred. Just go look in the mirror. It's time to reform yourself. Learn from your mistakes and move on forward. Plan for the next release of the new you: Version 2.0. The more ambitious, confident, charming, healthy, intelligent, sexy, and attractive you. If your plan is to win her back, drowning in your own pool of tear and saliva while shuffling through your old pictures together isn't going to work. Keep yourself occupied. Focus on your career. Watch empowering movies. Read some books. Take a class. Go to the gym. Reconnect with old friends. Establish new ones. And just live well. The world exists because of you.
 
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