Sep
29
2008
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Written by Will
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Monday, 29 September 2008 |
It all started with a simple mission: go out 4 times a week. Additionally, each night I would set myself some simple goals. The first night, I wanted to be able to say "Hi" to atleast 5 girls by the end of the night. You know what? I failed. I only hit 3. Moving forward, I set myself up with some extra short-term goals to accomplish each night. Eventually enough, I grew comfortable with the previously unfamiliar atmosphere and stood up to my ambitions to introduce myself to random people. All it takes is a little bit of pressure from yourself. Create some long-term, and more importantly: short-term objectives for you to play with.
When was the last time you felt like you had accomplished something truly incredible? I'm not talking about coming up with the next breakthrough in nano-technology or getting awarded a Nobel prize. They don't need to be so extravagant. Without setting personal challenges, your life will be very close to becoming static. You'll begin to find comfort in the norm of things. You have been gifted with an opportunity to excel, and it would be a shame for you to waste your lifetime in complacency. Having access to food, shelter, and technology - you're already well ahead of a majority of this world. Push yourself. Set realistic goals. Healthy habits. Both short-term and long-term. And evaluate your progress. Be grateful of the opportunities that are all around you.
"Confidence does not come from success. It is the other way around. Success comes from confidence. Confidence comes from acknowledging and respecting your own authority over your life." - D. Vorontzov |
Sep
29
2008
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Written by Will
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Monday, 29 September 2008 |
Appearances can be deceiving. Based on shallow judgment alone, you may miss out on an opportunity of getting to know some extraordinary people. Maybe they would have been a close friend or family member who would have introduced you to your future significant other. Only if you would have had made the decision to be a bit more open. The world is smaller than you think. With your ever increasing social network, you'd be amazed how all of us are connected. Just take a look at some of the mutual friends you find on one of your friend's Facebook. And if you don't have any mutual connections, it's more of a reason to get to know each other better.
A very small percent of what's initially apparent represents who they are, the remainder is unknown. As you proceed forward with conversations, try to delve deeper into what makes them unique. You'll find that most questions are left brief or unanswered. "What's new?" is almost always followed by "nothing." It's natural. Ask them to clarify any unmentioned details. Share with them your perspective, and then they will naturally share to you theirs. Show genuine interest in them. Charm is not about revealing your best self. But it's about bringing out the best of everyone around you. You'll find commonalities one way or another. We're all human aren't we? |
Sep
29
2008
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Written by Will
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Monday, 29 September 2008 |
Confidence is conveyed in both physique and speech.
Communicate your value by injecting dominating frames:
Making Requests:
"I really need your help tonight."
- Communicates a person of dire need.
"I would love it if you could help me tonight."
- Communicates an opportunity to get involved in your life.
Offering Yourself:
"When did you want me to be there?"
- Communicates that your attendance is by request.
"When did you need me there by?"
- Communicates your attendance is strongly desired.
While it's important to carry yourself above others, be sure you do not seem over the top; arrogant. Calibrate accordingly. |
Aug
11
2008
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Written by Will
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Monday, 11 August 2008 |
A little under a year into the start of your career, the company you had dreamed of working for all of eternity lays you off. Fresh out of school, you know you have some major student debt to pay off for at the end of every month. With your family struggling to pay for their own expenses, you can't bear to ask them for any assistance. Your mornings and afternoons are spent submitting your resume to companies you nor your friends have ever heard of. The world seems to be really coming to an end for you. You're not quite certain what the future holds for you. Then all of a sudden at 10pm on Friday, one of your better buddies gives you a ring asking you to come out to one of his friend's birthday party. What do you do?
Let's say for whatever external factors, your life isn't in the perfect state you'd wish it to be in. It’s critical to stay on top of your responsibilities during your own time. True confidence derives from the authority you claim over your life. But if you’re out to socialize, please lose the tissue box and bed covers. Stop criticizing yourself. It’s not the time or place. What are the roles of looks and money in pickup? ZERO FACTOR WHATSOEVER. Your appearance may need to be somewhat presentable. But other than that, it doesn’t matter if you don’t have a pretty boy face or drive a Ferrari. Men don’t get girls by qualifying themselves in these areas, so don’t bother. Assume success in your life and interactions. Consider it as a challenge, a game, a learning experience, and most importantly: an opportunity. You’ll notice an immediate difference in how people perceive you. |
May
11
2008
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Written by Will
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Sunday, 11 May 2008 |
Kyle, a PUA rookie, just finished reading The Game and all about the Mystery Method. After carefully reviewing his notes in the club bathroom, he exits to make his planned approach to a group of girls who's celebrating their best friend's 21st birthday. "Hey ladies, can I get a quick female opinion about something?" Half interested, they lean in for the question. "Who lies more, men or women?" Occupied by the overflow of alcohol from their hot waiter and excitement from all the celebrations, Kyle is given a one word answer and brushed off by the entire group: "men." As he walks away, he smirks a smile. Kyle has actually gained from the interaction, +1xp. woOt! :D
Not every approach will be successful. Not every shot will make it through the hoop. But any step is a step worth making. In this game - Even when you lose, you gain. Treat it like XP points in an RPG. After losing all your lives in a video game, you are faced with the words: "GAME OVER. Continue?" Do you go cry to your friends? Or complain about how badly you lost until the night is over? No. You have the option to continue, so take it. Each approach is like shooting hoops. Michael Jordan doesn't go cry to his team if he misses a shot. Keep at it, and you'll keep growing. Don't get so affected by a sour approach. Calibration is key. So make sure you're paying attention to the environment, mood, and energy of those around you. |
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