May
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2008
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Written by Will
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Sunday, 11 May 2008 |
While talking to her friends, a girl's wallet slips out of her pocket and onto the floor unnoticed. You immediately go over to her direction, pick up the wallet, and hand it to her with a bright confident smile. You didn't spend any time doubting your appearance, the purpose of such a conversation, what others would think of you, or any of the lame excuses that would have built up from anticipating such an approach. Where was your usual hesitation? The gentleman in you kicked in. You didn't care how she was going to react. You didn't overanalyze the situation. Or make yourself nervous by predicting every 1% possibility that might have occurred. That would've been too much of a commitment. You were outcome independent. With absolutely no expectations. During your next approach, try and incorporate some of these attitudes. Just don't ever mention the wallet.
Imagine loading up an entirely new game for the first time and having it start you off on the last level. How well do you think you would do? Let me rephrase that question, how much longer do you think you'll be playing that game? Without getting down the basics, warming up, and practicing beforehand - you're simply not going to be ready for that level of difficulty. It'd be demoralizing to try and continue. I myself have been a victim of this mistake. So proud of myself, I'd just wait around all night until I would have the perfect opportunity to approach only the best looking girls of the venue. Even when you know what you're doing, it's hard as hell to get yourself into that comfortably conversational, charming, and charismatic state. What would you be left with if the approach failed? Work yourself up. And save your best self for last. |
May
11
2008
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Written by Will
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Sunday, 11 May 2008 |
It's a dilemma everyone faces from time to time: How much space should you be giving your significant other? And when is it time to draw the lines? I think it's a compliment for others to admire or even desire to be with your girl. It'll make her want to stay healthy, sociable, and look her best. An escape from complacency! The same principle applies for guys. So don't be so over-protective. It communicates a lack of confidence and a fear of losing control.
Don't get me wrong, it's good to be protective at times. It show's that you care. Just not every time they happen to check them out. That's childish. Friendly flirting here and there is fine. But never give anyone the idea that they may be able to break up your relationship. It lowers your value, makes you look easy, susceptible to manipulation, and expresses that your partner is just not good enough. If you are seriously interested in alternatives, you should end your relationship first. Or discuss with your partner about keeping each other's options open.
The more we invest into a relationship, the more committed we become. Why? We measure worth and value based on how much they cost us. Whether it be monetary, time, or emotional pay off. A soft drink is worth $1 because it costs us $1. Diamonds, regardless of how plentiful they are, are valuable because of how much we are charged for them. So the more we buy stuff for our significant other, the more time we spend with them, and the more emotions mixed into the equation - the more difficult it becomes to leave them.
If you want to keep a girl forever, make them do all of the above. They'll stay with you as long as you remain attractive. Vice versa. But what causes attraction? Attraction = Value, Attainability, and Compliance. Value is any quality or characteristic that makes something or someone desirable. Attainability is the capability or probability of enriching one's life with that value. Compliance is the belief that a majority of requirements will be or has been met by those values. If you want to lose the girl, redefine what you find to be attractive. And continue to reinforce those new beliefs. |
May
11
2008
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Day Approach Strategy, Opposite Directions |
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Written by Will
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Sunday, 11 May 2008 |
Scenario: A few blocks away from Union Square Park in New York City, you tread carefully around all the sidewalk construction. It's a long weekend day ahead of you, and you're just out to enjoy the day. As you refocus your attention onto the sidewalk ahead, you happen to notice a young attractive girl with an intriguing style heading your direction. It's nearing winter, so the air is crisp. You take a deep breath of confidence as you prepare yourself for the moment...
- Girl walks towards your direction (Shields up)
- You continue moving forward
- Still moving forward, you make eye contact and smile
- Girl looks away in another direction (Shields up)
- The two of you pass each other ("Whew, he didn't approach me!" Shields down)
- You turn your head over your shoulder
- You: "Excuse Me!"
- Girl turns around (Curious)
- You: "Hi, I was wondering where I could find a nice ____ around here." (Opinion opener)
- Girl: Blah, blah, blah (Listen, reward, and relate)
- You: "I love how you're so ____. You must be from ____." (Notice something about them)
- Girl responds
- You: "Oh really? What's there to do around there?" (Ask an open-ended question)
- Girl responds
- A few minutes later...
- You: "My friends and I are going to ____ later tonight. You should come." (Invite to future social event)
- Girl responds
- You: "Hey thanks for all the help! (hug) Call me later tonight." (Assume familiarity)
- You begin to walk away
- Girl: "Wait a minute; I don't have your number." (Hooked!)
- You smile back at her and exchange numbers.
That was how I got my quickest number closure to date. A little under 5 minutes. Good luck! |
Apr
11
2008
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Written by Will
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Friday, 11 April 2008 |
The smoke in the club has reached its climax, above the average height of any guest of the night. It's difficult to see anyone even a foot ahead of you. There are guys all around trying to take a woman home. Some try their best to act sweet and kind, doing anything the girl asks them to do. Others, order tequilla shots and champagne to get their girl drunk enough so their rational thought is out of the equation. Then, the gentleman walks in. Fashionably late. Confident within his footsteps, girls turn their necks as they notice his dominant presence in the room. He doesn't turn to check out any girls, they are of no dire interest. He has true value. With a quick glimpse, he spots his target and makes his way over. With a dashing confident smile, he introduces himself and it's already over; her heart is his.
There are many behavioral aspects you can take when courting women. Dogs gain affection by doing tricks, following orders, and being a good companion. Rats swarm their prey and win their prize through eventual weakened submission. Wolves may hunt alone or in packs. But, they do not require permission or the support of others. Methodical in their approach, they are well aware of their abilities and will close in on a target given the opportunity. If a chase becomes inconvenient, they will discontinue the pursuit and search for new desirable prey; going for weeks without food at times. If you're hungry, don't feel ashamed of your instinctual needs. You're a man. Use your knowledge and experience to get what you want. Never should you ever act like a domesticated bitch or rely on the influence of alcohol to assist in your process. Step up your game and behave how a gentleman should. |
Apr
11
2008
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Written by Will
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Friday, 11 April 2008 |
It's the end of the night at a club, and you can already see most the guys desperately trying to close their deals like used car salesmen. Who's more valuable, you or her? An invitation to spend a few extra hours with you at a late-night restaurant, an after-hour lounge, or back at your place should be desirable by itself. If you feel as if you want to see her more than she does you, take it down a knotch. Don't seek value, provide it. The same rule applies for earlier in the night. Treat both disposable pleasures and meaningful pursuits the same. Don't be so forceful or needy when conversing with them. Grace them with your presence and show genuine appreciation. Flattery is insincere, selfish, and unappreciated - so there's really no need for any of it. Take your pick and work your game with your calm confidence. You are the prize.
So you were able to obtain initial attraction and exchange contacts with the girl of your interest. Be careful with the follow-up though. This is where most guys fuck it up. Girls have actually had to learn to be forgiving because of this. It's almost a certainty by the time you've gotten to her, she's had a handful of guys in the past who have had suggested the default date: dinner and movie combo. These initial dates are so ingrained into their heads, that even if you ask her out on a casual dinner she will most likely dress up thinking that it was a serious date. It's your first time the two of you are spending significant time together. Why on earth would you want to stuff her with food and then have her STFU for two hours in a dark room with other douchebags that did the same thing as you did that night? What are you going to do next, make sweet love while both of you feel bloated? So, how can you be different? Keep things plain, casual, and platonic at the start. Then take her to some fun and exciting places. Save the dinner and movies for later. Be warm, caring, knowledgeable, and interesting and the rest should be smooth sailing. |
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