Apr
15
2009
| Radiate Positivity |
| Written by Will | |||||
| Wednesday, 15 April 2009 | |||||
 Before I get into the powerfully attractive nature of positive emotions in a man, let's explore the origin of negative emotions from our upbringings. Brought into this world, we are quickly exposed to what is within our reach of attainability and what is not. No matter how much we yell, kick, or scream - our parents will not feed or give us certain things we may not be ready for. This reality of unattainable desires begins to sink in as a negative state of our emotions; manifested when we begin to wish that the present reality in front of us was in some way different. Expression of negative emotions (anger, frustration, sadness, hate, etc) can be seen as one's submission to the presently undesirable reality. It's natural. And perfectly fine during a time of severe tragedy. But when compared to the larger and greater problems in this world, how truly upsetting is yours? Remember the first time you learned the word "unfair?" I'm sure we can all recall the moments in our childhood where we cried ourselves to sleep repeating the words "this isn't fair." You were the victim; and everyone was out to make your life more miserable. Poor you! Hopefully enough, we have all grown out of that immature mindset and are now more aware of how to better handle ourselves. Unrealistic expectations of an ideal life will only set you up for a major upset. Believe me, shit happens. To both good and bad people. And there is much much more to come! The more energy you expend, the more draining the situation will become. So don't resist the reality when it does occur. It will only bog you down. Your bitching and complaining doesn't help either. No seriously, it doesn't. Recognize the problem; then take the right action to overcome it. You know the pain in your muscles you feel when having a great work out? There are people in this world who pay big bucks for world-class trainers to help them feel that same exact pain. Feel it; live for it. Almost sadistically even! The quicker you become numb to the pains of life, the easier it will be for you to grow from it. When repeatedly confronted with undesirable realities, you will begin to develop a mental reflex for handling life's conflicts. Your mind will become jaded to the idea of negativity. And the threshold of which breaks your reality will only strengthen. Men who are unaware of how to move forward from conflict will remain in their negative states; trapped inside their emotional static. They will complain on and on about how they wish this was that. They will obsess over the future, in hopes of sudden change of their current reality. But by resisting the present, they may even fail to understand the problem itself. This is similar to the guys who go out to nightclubs and talk about how bad of a night it is. If you ever feel like you're having a bad night: acknowledge it, and then move in the direction which will make you happier. By acquiring a natural comfort and secure feeling of the world, you will begin to walk through life with absolute confidence. The level of control you have over your life will communicate the masculine traits all women subconsciously look for in men. Never nervous of the unknown, your calm state will make others around you feel at-ease within the environment. Navigating the complexities of the world with the same certainty as with the simplest of facts, you will naturally become a leader. From the strength of your own beliefs, the reality within will become the reality of your life. This is not a technique; it is a state of being. Trust in self.
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Kevin
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It's easier said than done to constantly be positive. Often times, I find myself being negative and catching it. I believe, my mind naturally comes from a negative mindset. Always criticizing others and never myself. I must have not learned from Dale Carnegie. Essentially, what your saying is be a optimist. What is it that YOU do to constantly see the glass half full? Obama is a great example of looking at the glass half full. How do we change mindsets. It just doesn't seem to happen instantly. |
Will
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I think it would be weird to be upbeat and positive 100% of the time. Remember grade school teachers who used to be like that? And then when they flipped out, it was as if hell had just broken loose. Yeah, super unhealthy. It's okay to be neutral. And not negative. Just catch yourself, and move away from it when you are. How? Now, that's different for everyone. For me, I just think about how silly life is sometimes. And just try to enjoy the moment for what it is. A smile naturally comes out. I have a pretty awesome article on Happiness coming up soon. Can't wait! :) |
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