Sep
21
2009
| The Inevitable Promise of Love |
| Written by Will | |||||||||
| Monday, 21 September 2009 | |||||||||
 The sudden sound of a camera's shutter resonates into the far away distance. Snuggled together in their hotel blanket, a couple rests at the edge of a remote coastline admiring an ever so perfect sunset. The air so crisp; the water so calm; and the sand so white. Like painting on a disappearing canvas, the moment seems to slip away the more they try to contain it. Repressing the urge to take another photo, they fall back into their comfortable embrace with trust that such magnificence cannot be forgotten. Completely relaxed without a care in the world, whispers of love are exchanged as the sun continues to fade into the evening. Who could ever forget the wonderful feeling of being in a new relationship? Sudden bursts of smiles from the sheer thought of seeing each other. Late night phone calls just to hear each other fall asleep. Waking up together to a brisk cold winter wonderland, warm and cozy underneath the covers. Telling all your friends and family about how awesome your new significant other is. Posting up the hundreds of pictures you took together while away on vacation. Hands in hand, exploring the world as if it was an entirely new terrain. Life feels so much brighter; so much more promising than it ever did before. From the mindset of an active player, all this lovey-dovey talk would most definitely signal off countless red alerts with "Abort Mission!" labels. Yes, that is the case for a lot of hookups; where it would be best to break it off the morning after or way before anything had even started. Why? To thwart even the slightest of possibility of an unhealthy emotional attachment based on their naive upbringings and understanding of relationships. Whether you were a virgin, a freshman in college, recouping from a breakup, or giving off too strong of a needy vibe; now you know why it wasn't taken any further. It would've been unfair. However though, let's say a nonexclusive relationship between two individuals managed to continue on for days, weeks, or months even.. How long could such a relationship last? Like addicts craving for the taste of sex love and lust, both could definitely gain from the relationship. While everything may be on the down low, the relationship will naturally go beyond the 2am 3am 4am booty calls sooner or later. The two of you will eventually spend some of the time together doing somewhat coupley things: dinner, movie, shopping, traveling, etc. Otherwise, the relationship would be too impersonal to last as long as it did. From immature breakups to the most unexpected engagements; I'm sure you've seen it all. Spiteful status updates that are specially crafted for the sole purpose of stimulating their significant other's insecurities. The constant stream of "we broke up" and "no we're back together" updates. The I love you, I hate you relationship identity crisis periods. Maybe eventually reaching the Coolidge effect where everything in the relationship becomes uneventful and stale. Or on the brighter side, suddenly disappearing for a few months then coming back with questions on where to find a quality ring for the proposal. We get none of that. So where exactly are we? Unconstrained by the openness of our relationship, both of us act single and remain on the pursuit while apart. Sometimes falling asleep in the arms of our other lovers, we may even question whether or not this is what we had really wanted. The most indescribable of hard feelings hits when either of us long for the other while they are preoccupied with another. And to shield our hearts from heartbreak, we swallow our desires for the evening in desperate acceptance of the given situation as it is. Always yearning for more but in great company of one another; we wander in a bittersweet uncertainty lost in a void between relationships. When our bodies do finally meet half way, time seems to extend itself for us to enjoy each other. From the top to the bottom, twisting and turning, covering ourselves in our own sweat and saliva, upright and head down, until we reach that familiar climax triggering the most pleasurable of shivers into an almost blissful fatigue. Right then, I can look deep into those beautiful eyes of yours and envision a happy life together. I know I can make you happy. And I'm sure you could do the same. However so, a certain cloud of doubt draws me away from that potential future. And I do apologize for being so cautious. I'm still not entirely sure what I'm looking for. The longer we keep this going, the more riskier it'll be for the both of us. The more we become invested, the more we become emotionally attached. We all secretly wish we had that special someone to put some meaning behind to singing along to the lyrics. An inevitable promise of love builds over our fabricated reality. It's only a matter of time before the emotional threshold of yours or mine will be exhausted. I'll tell you this though - For when our search comes to an end, we will know without a question of a doubt with stronger conviction and absolute trust that what we have found is what we had been looking for all along. For however long this lasts, I hope you enjoy it for what it's worth.
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Kev
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Realize that everyone has a different goal going into this. Some of us would like a harem. Some of us would just like to have a date with a beautiful girl. Some of us would like to find a soulmate. To each their own. You're objective is to help them achieve their own. I think "For however long this lasts, I hope you enjoy it for what it's worth. " is the only mindset you can take on. No one knows what the future holds. Taking it one day at a time with a idea of the direction is what we're currently doing. Thank you for the shoutout. "Or on the brighter side, suddenly disappearing for a few months then coming back with questions on where to find a quality ring for the proposal" |
Dave
said:
| Will, where was this wisdom in hi school? very interesting analysis of an ever-increasingly complex subject btw.. |
Google
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So what you're really saying is that, let's date all we can for our youth is short (okay maybe you didn't; that was just my ad lib), and even two-timing is ok (as long as one's fine with the side effects), just so the journey there is a good one. I concur, to an extent. I mean, if it's okay with your principles, then you have the autonomy to do so. But...what does that say about your principles? |
Alex
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| Was this taught in an institutional setting? Or learned? If it was learned? Was it through a few long term relationships or a dozen shorter ones? btw how is that voice activated clock working for ya? |
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