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Written by Will
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Sunday, 11 May 2008 |
While talking to her friends, a girl's wallet slips out of her pocket and onto the floor unnoticed. You immediately go over to her direction, pick up the wallet, and hand it to her with a bright confident smile. You didn't spend any time doubting your appearance, the purpose of such a conversation, what others would think of you, or any of the lame excuses that would have built up from anticipating such an approach. Where was your usual hesitation? The gentleman in you kicked in. You didn't care how she was going to react. You didn't overanalyze the situation. Or make yourself nervous by predicting every 1% possibility that might have occurred. That would've been too much of a commitment. You were outcome independent. With absolutely no expectations. During your next approach, try and incorporate some of these attitudes. Just don't ever mention the wallet.
Imagine loading up an entirely new game for the first time and having it start you off on the last level. How well do you think you would do? Let me rephrase that question, how much longer do you think you'll be playing that game? Without getting down the basics, warming up, and practicing beforehand - you're simply not going to be ready for that level of difficulty. It'd be demoralizing to try and continue. I myself have been a victim of this mistake. So proud of myself, I'd just wait around all night until I would have the perfect opportunity to approach only the best looking girls of the venue. Even when you know what you're doing, it's hard as hell to get yourself into that comfortably conversational, charming, and charismatic state. What would you be left with if the approach failed? Work yourself up. And save your best self for last.
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