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Written by Will
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Friday, 11 April 2008 |
It's the end of the night at a club, and you can already see most the guys desperately trying to close their deals like used car salesmen. Who's more valuable, you or her? An invitation to spend a few extra hours with you at a late-night restaurant, an after-hour lounge, or back at your place should be desirable by itself. If you feel as if you want to see her more than she does you, take it down a knotch. Don't seek value, provide it. The same rule applies for earlier in the night. Treat both disposable pleasures and meaningful pursuits the same. Don't be so forceful or needy when conversing with them. Grace them with your presence and show genuine appreciation. Flattery is insincere, selfish, and unappreciated - so there's really no need for any of it. Take your pick and work your game with your calm confidence. You are the prize.
So you were able to obtain initial attraction and exchange contacts with the girl of your interest. Be careful with the follow-up though. This is where most guys fuck it up. Girls have actually had to learn to be forgiving because of this. It's almost a certainty by the time you've gotten to her, she's had a handful of guys in the past who have had suggested the default date: dinner and movie combo. These initial dates are so ingrained into their heads, that even if you ask her out on a casual dinner she will most likely dress up thinking that it was a serious date. It's your first time the two of you are spending significant time together. Why on earth would you want to stuff her with food and then have her STFU for two hours in a dark room with other douchebags that did the same thing as you did that night? What are you going to do next, make sweet love while both of you feel bloated? So, how can you be different? Keep things plain, casual, and platonic at the start. Then take her to some fun and exciting places. Save the dinner and movies for later. Be warm, caring, knowledgeable, and interesting and the rest should be smooth sailing.
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