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Written by Will
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Monday, 15 December 2008 |
Earlier this month, Wayne Elise (Juggler) from Charisma Arts had visited the Jury's Boston Hotel for a brief talk with a small group of gentlemen. An ex-client, ex-coworker, and a friend of mine had also attended this event with me. Much has changed since I had received my training from Dimitri and Rob last year. In fact, both of them have gone freelance and are no longer with Charisma Arts. The stress on connecting conversation topics by emotions has been completely eliminated. While I don't particularly agree or disagree with the newer teachings, do take it with a grain of salt. Here are some of my notes:
Introductions
Altruism is unrealistic. People will not believe a selfless intent for talking to them. What's your angle? Why are you talking to them? They will remain cautious and curious until knowing so. Open with a preamble, strictly in statement form until they are ready and willing to contribute. Allow them to respond only when it appears they really want to. Wayne also mentioned a very familiar "Balloon Theory:" the importance of opening (grabbing) the entire group (balloons) to slowly release and focus on your single target.
Continuing Conversations
Wayne's "Nostradamus Method" can be described by a volley of various potential conversation topics used in statement format to determine what will invoke their interest. Get used to talking with topic-diverse statements. If they ask questions with minimal desire for a response, allow them to answer it for you. Lead their imagination. Conjure up images and scenarios. Bounce between conversation topics as often as you can. This seems to be in the complete opposition to Wayne's earlier theories of connecting on emotions to keep the conversation more personal.
Qualifications
As described by the Ying and Yang, everything has a potential for good and bad. Use of qualifications is a trick to convince yourself and her that she will live up to your standards. A man will not know within the first 5 minutes or even 5 hours if he can see himself in a relationship with a woman. I think that qualifying is an excellent way to show that you have standards to whom you associate yourself with. But I do agree that certain girls may qualify themselves on a false term just to keep the conversation going.
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