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Feb 20 2009

Demonstrating Higher Value

Written by Will

Friday, 20 February 2009

I still remember my first few nights going out trying to incorporate the Mystery Method. If you're unaware, this is the stuff you see on VH1's reality show: The Pickup Artist. I had a well-prepared, double-sided reference sheet loaded with conversational dialog in the tiniest font imagineable. From the opening gambit, alongside with negs, stories which demonstrated higher value, dealing with logistics, the number close, the kiss close, and even the lines to get the girl back to my place. It worked.

I found the method way too mechanical for my style. I genuinely didn't care about the half the shit I was talking about. I quickly moved onto the more natural approach after my first week of using MM. This was wayy back in the Fall of 2007. It wasn't for me. Now don't get me wrong. I know a handful of successful Pickup Artists in the community who still use this type of material. Here's the thing, they are: Pickup Artists. Who do YOU want to be?

Are you trying to seduce women so they have a sudden desire to sleep with you? Then, my good sir - there are a plethora of Magic Bullet solutions with proven conversational dialogs that will take you straight into that field of imposed success with women. There are even neurolinguistic programming techniques, which will help you practically hypnotize your targets! In theory, all this stuff works. Yes, in theory.

But by learning any of this stuff, how does this add any value to who you are? Are any of these applicable to everyday conversation? The problem with these techniques is simple: you are TRYING to get women. So automatically, you are coming from a position of lower value. It doesn't have to be that hard. You can become that desirable man that doesn't have to go out of his way to get all sorts of quality women. Don't go out of your way to "Demonstrate Higher Value." True gentleman don't have to.

Your confidence and social suave should be enough of a reason for women to become interested in you. You should provide approval; not seek it. People often times associate great conversationalists to those who had allowed them to talk for the majority of it. What's the lesson here? Listen. Show genuine interest. Of course, contribute to the conversation when you must; you don't want it sounding like an interview. And right then, when you know she's really into you.. that's when you can allow her to discover all the spectacular things about your life. Feed her curiosity, only when she is truly curious.

I've recently incorporated a different style at going about the way I socialize with people I've never met before: I'm not a nightlife promoter. I don't have a corporate job. I didn't go to any university. And I definitely don't know any of their friends. Does this all really matter? Must I depend on any of these variables in order for me to create a great connection with another person? There is much more depth to who I am. And the same applies to you. Set aside any favorable conditions that may ease in the conversation and try not to repeat any stories you find yourself telling too often.

It's a social handicap. I find it both challenging and fun. Are you game?

Tags: Inner Game

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