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| What Women Want |
| Written by Will | |||||||||||
| Tuesday, 03 March 2009 | |||||||||||
 Ask a girl what she looks for in a man, and she will rarely ever mention any of what I'm about to tell you. The concept is so trivial, which may also be the reason why it is often times overlooked. Unfortunately, the majority of guys fail to recognize what exactly it is that women expect from us. From the perspective of an unsatisfied woman, I can now see why some men are abandoned, divorced, or even cheated on. Aside from preferences for specific character or personality traits, women subconsciously look for men to satisfy two primary roles in their lives: the Lover, and the Provider. The Lover This is the dominant, sexual, passionate, and masculine man. He makes the girl feel beautiful and desirable; in and out of bed. The Provider This is the nice, stable, driven, and even romantic gentleman. He provides a sense of security and a promising future together. Depending on where they are in life, a woman's desire for one over the other will vary. While still young and insecure about themselves, girls will prefer to have more of the lover type with a dash of first-love romance. At this age though, boys are quite far from their prime; they will be sub-lovers and/or sub-providers. As girls mature, they will slowly transition to seek a bit more security from a potential past heartbreak. As they reach the age around marriage, their desire for either or just about balances off to be equivalent. Once the idea of children and family come into play; the provider role continues to skyrocket as the role as a lover slowly dwindles away over time. Now, where do most men fail? And why? Women, intentional or not, have a tendency to give off attention-seeking signals. Go to Facebook and check the Status Updates of all your female friends and you'll begin to see what I mean. With this, follows a flurry of guys who will offer their fullest attention, care, and act as the super sweet nice guy. They'll walk a thousand miles to feed the girl soup in bed, just because she has a small cough. They'll ask her out on fancy romantic dinners, send her a bouquet of roses to her workplace, and eventually give her that diamond ring she's been waiting for. Aw, how romantic! This used to be me. Now wait just a minute there pal.. What the fuck did she do for you to gain all this undeserved attention? Absolutely nothing. By going out on a whim and soliciting yourself so easily, you just lowered your value to close to worthlessness. You weren't even a challenge for her. And in the mean time, other guys are offering the same exact thing. So you have just become a commodity to her. So, what do you do to differentiate yourself? Do not become the over-provider. She has survived X number of years without you; she'll be just fine without your help. You should not have to take care of every little thing for her. It'll foster a very dependent relationship. And right then when you realize just how much of a mistake you had made, she'll begin to wonder why you're not as "sweet" as you were when the two of you first met. Start the relationship off as the lover. It's an easier transition to fulfill the provider role; rather than vice versa. Make sure to realize that satisfying both roles throughout the relationship is necessary in order for it to grow. Women do not have the luxury of waiting around for you to grow up. So quit being a bitch and step it up!
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Neb
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well said =) I especially love the part "Now wait just a minute there pal.. What the fuck did she do for you to gain all this undeserved attention? Absolutely nothing. By going out on a whim and soliciting yourself so easily, you just lowered your value to close to worthlessness. You weren't even a challenge for her. And in the mean time, other guys are offering the same exact thing. So you have just become a commodity to her." That is so true |
jenn
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"Make sure to realize that satisfying both roles throughout the relationship is necessary in order for it to grow." have found this to be soo trueeee wholeheartedly agree with the 2 primary roles |
Lena
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very interesting... I couldn't help but smile and laugh at this. You spent hours at the GSU writing this? =P |
kat
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| well done! i can't agree more. no wonder you have stopped being a hopeless romantic. now i know why. =) |
DEBBIE :)
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True. I hate it when guys stop being the provider they first appeared to be. "Women, intentional or not, have a tendency to give off attention-seeking signals" Really? Wake up and show me... |
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