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| Explore New Harbors |
| Written by Will | |||||
| Monday, 23 March 2009 | |||||
 Another week; another day; another night; same plans; same places; with the same people. Life can get a little dull when everything is on autopilot. And many continue to live this way without much thought of how socially limiting it can be. Even I have managed to fall once again into an unhealthy routine! I'm not advising you to pursue a different career, transfer schools, stop going to the gym, or avoid hanging out with your close friends. That would be ludicrous. There are many great things in life you probably want to keep on a repeated basis. By limiting myself to where I socialize, I have become victim to a self manifested scarcity mentality. I have been casting my line in the same few docks for way too long. This has truly crippled the idea of maintaining an abundance mindset when it comes to meeting and connecting with women. Having had already connected with a good majority of the regulars at these venues, the select few who are new to the scene instantly get higher attention on my radar than everyone else. And due to this artificial shortage, I have gradually become more attached to the outcome of these interactions. There are far too many extraordinary people in this world for me to rely on chance alone. What are the most traditional and socially accepted ways for a guy and a girl to meet? Through friends or family, at the workplace, small social gatherings, religious groups, or professional arrangements. Very limited indeed. And with this limitation comes a series of very dependent, needy sub-communications which will turn off any highly sought after girl. Yet, many men rely on this minimal chance that they will some day meet the girl of his dreams through these channels and live happily ever after. I'm certain there are super awesome couples who had met this way. I personally know a few, and they're great! But when looking at the divorce rates, need for marriage counseling, and utterly retarded relationship issues for the remaining majority.. you will begin to a see a pattern: The guy will most likely had been blinded by his self-fulfilled limitation of women to have settled for that "special one" who just so happened to have landed on his lap. Without having had dated that many women and based on a limited experience, how do they honestly know if she is the best for them? They don't. Personally, I would want to be able to look at my loved one right in her eyes to honestly say that I have seen everything that is out there and know without a single doubt that she is in fact the most amazing woman in the world. But in order for this to happen more rapidly, we must continue to expand our horizons. Achieve great abundance by keeping open to where you interact with people. Explore new venues. Hang out with a variety of different social groups. Open on the street, the commute to work, at the mall, food courts, coffee shops, airports, restaurants, everywhere. Approach at will, Wherever and whenever. Defy the norm. Make it happen!
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Hey Will, Just thought I'd come check out your page and I definitely like what you've got going. The monotonous routine is something that we all fall into at various points of our lives and I completely agree with you with your assertion to break free. We cease to expand our understanding and growth within various social engagements when we allow the onset of social complacency. I caveat that with acknowledging the importance of having a predictable and well known routine: without a routine where we can feel comfortable to "test waters", we limit the amount of substantial growth we can have. A simple analogy might be starting a new job... new environment with a new social setting. There is a sense of uncertainty and social dynamic that you have yet to learn. Typically this leads to an increased level of stress (not necessarily bad stress, but stress induced from the novelty and uncertainty of a new setting) which will affect how you may interact or engage. As you fall into a comfortable groove that's when you begin to go deeper and become more efficient in your environment. Regardless of job tasks or social interactions I think this concept can be applied. I guess what I've trying to say is that through a known routine there is still a lot of value and growth. That "safe place" is the training ground that can really help you to be successful when put to the test. I personally have always loved putting myself into new social situations and broadening my scope, but I realized that even within the routines in my life that I use to regard as boring, I discovered that there is a lot more if you keep digging. We spend billions to explore space and grasp a better understanding of what's out in the universe, but conversely we barely know what's in the deepest parts of our own ocean or within the rock that we inhabit. Both are worthwhile realms to engage and yield different value, that in my opinion, compliment each other. ----------- I also wanted to expand on your excerpt where you write about how you truly know when you have found the most amazing woman and being able to validate that belief, but that could easily be a long blog post of its own so I will save it for now. Anyway, it would be cool if you wanted to talk and throw some ideas around about that. Keep up the good work~ best regards, Andrew |
jenny
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what you do here is truly commendable, will. i hope you someday find that most amazing girl in the world. 2 down, 3 billionnnnnn to go. NEVER SETTLE! NEVER GIVE UP! HUZZAH! |
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